Written in the Kitchen Sink

New Yorker.
Thirty-one.
English Teacher.
LDR Conquerer.

Perspective, please?

unabridged-tomes:

If you were an only child, or if you had one or several siblings, would you mind letting me know your thoughts on growing up with or without? I’m looking for a variety of points of view, if you don’t mind sharing.

If you’re a parent, would you be willing to talk with me a little about why you…

I am the youngest of two. My sister is four years older than I am. I’ve been honest on here about the fact that I have been estranged from her for nearly 2 1/2 years now. We are very, very different people and sometimes it amazes me that we grew up in the same household and were raised by the same people.

Here’s what I think…Giving your child a sibling DOES NOT guarantee that they will be more positively socialized. I struggle with social anxiety and a lot of it stems from my sister’s emotional abuse. Giving your child a sibling also DOES NOT mean that they will be super close and get along. I don’t wish I was an only child, as that would mean wiping away my sister’s existence (and that of my nieces and nephew, whom I love dearly), but my sibling relationship has caused me a whole lot of pain and confusion for most of my life. I’ve often thought I would only have one, if any, and so many people have told me not to do it because they’d feel alone. Well, guess what, some of us with siblings feel alone quite often too. 

One of my best friends is an only child and she’s one of the kindest, smartest, lovely people I have ever met. My other best friend is one of 5 and she is also kind and brilliant. They are that way because of the parent(s) who raised them. 

Do what’s best for you and your little family. He’s a lucky little boy no matter what!

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I’m officially tenured today.

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xzalor:

just saw this on facebook, thought I’d share

we gonna get the proper justice for you. rip angel

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"Jesus H. Roosevelt Christ!"

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- You’ve seen men die before. And by violence. 
- Yes. Many of them. 

Outlander 1.04 “The Gathering”

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Olivia, my eldest daughter, caught measles when she was seven years old. As the illness took its usual course I can remember reading to her often in bed and not feeling particularly alarmed about it. Then one morning, when she was well on the road to recovery, I was sitting on her bed showing her how to fashion little animals out of coloured pipe-cleaners, and when it came to her turn to make one herself, I noticed that her fingers and her mind were not working together and she couldn’t do anything.

“Are you feeling all right?” I asked her.

“I feel all sleepy, ” she said.

In an hour, she was unconscious. In twelve hours she was dead.

The measles had turned into a terrible thing called measles encephalitis and there was nothing the doctors could do to save her.

That was twenty-four years ago in 1962, but even now, if a child with measles happens to develop the same deadly reaction from measles as Olivia did, there would still be nothing the doctors could do to help her.

On the other hand, there is today something that parents can do to make sure that this sort of tragedy does not happen to a child of theirs. They can insist that their child is immunised against measles. I was unable to do that for Olivia in 1962 because in those days a reliable measles vaccine had not been discovered. Today a good and safe vaccine is available to every family and all you have to do is to ask your doctor to administer it.

It is not yet generally accepted that measles can be a dangerous illness.

Believe me, it is. In my opinion parents who now refuse to have their children immunised are putting the lives of those children at risk.

In America, where measles immunisation is compulsory, measles like smallpox, has been virtually wiped out.

Here in Britain, because so many parents refuse, either out of obstinacy or ignorance or fear, to allow their children to be immunised, we still have a hundred thousand cases of measles every year.

Out of those, more than 10,000 will suffer side effects of one kind or another.

At least 10,000 will develop ear or chest infections.

About 20 will die.

LET THAT SINK IN.

Every year around 20 children will die in Britain from measles.

So what about the risks that your children will run from being immunised?

They are almost non-existent. Listen to this. In a district of around 300,000 people, there will be only one child every 250 years who will develop serious side effects from measles immunisation! That is about a million to one chance. I should think there would be more chance of your child choking to death on a chocolate bar than of becoming seriously ill from a measles immunisation.

So what on earth are you worrying about?

It really is almost a crime to allow your child to go unimmunised.

Roald Dahl, 1986

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TEAM VACCINE

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NINETEEN EIGHTY SIX.

roald dahl was calling out the anti-vaccination movement as self indulgent bullshit //thirty god damn years ago//.

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Over 1,000 preventable deaths and 128,000 preventable illnesses since 2007 and counting

And this is only in recent history. I can’t imagine the numbers if we had data all the way back to 1986.

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And thanks to anti-vaxxers, measles is back in the United States.

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Deconstructing Masculinity & Manhood with Michael Kimmel @ Dartmouth College

YAAAAEEESSSSSSS

You know what I like, and feel is so important? That he doesn’t say “Men thinks those are THEIR positions”. He says “We think those are OUR positions.”

As a male feminist, he still doesn’t exclude himself from the group of men.

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huffingtonpost:

Matt Damon Does Ice Bucket Challenge With Toilet Water For 800 Million Without Clean H2O

Matt Damon was conflicted when friends Jimmy Kimmel and Ben Affleck called on him to complete the ALS ice bucket challenge.

Find out who Damon challenges here. 

He wins

Four for you, Matt Damon

You go, Matt Damon

Matt Damon is one of my favorite people ever. For many reasons.

God I love Matt Damon

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