If you were an only child, or if you had one or several siblings, would you mind letting me know your thoughts on growing up with or without? I’m looking for a variety of points of view, if you don’t mind sharing.
If you’re a parent, would you be willing to talk with me a little about why you…
I am the youngest of two. My sister is four years older than I am. I’ve been honest on here about the fact that I have been estranged from her for nearly 2 1/2 years now. We are very, very different people and sometimes it amazes me that we grew up in the same household and were raised by the same people.
Here’s what I think…Giving your child a sibling DOES NOT guarantee that they will be more positively socialized. I struggle with social anxiety and a lot of it stems from my sister’s emotional abuse. Giving your child a sibling also DOES NOT mean that they will be super close and get along. I don’t wish I was an only child, as that would mean wiping away my sister’s existence (and that of my nieces and nephew, whom I love dearly), but my sibling relationship has caused me a whole lot of pain and confusion for most of my life. I’ve often thought I would only have one, if any, and so many people have told me not to do it because they’d feel alone. Well, guess what, some of us with siblings feel alone quite often too.
One of my best friends is an only child and she’s one of the kindest, smartest, lovely people I have ever met. My other best friend is one of 5 and she is also kind and brilliant. They are that way because of the parent(s) who raised them.
Do what’s best for you and your little family. He’s a lucky little boy no matter what!